Being a Mormon Man

How Mormon men are tortured/controlled by celestial marriage,

Selling life insurance was a perfect fit. After returning home from his mission for the LDS church, it was a natural opportunity.

Shortly after his career started to bloom, the internet snowballed into a monopolistic platform and life insurance was no longer a haven for cold callers. Kid number two on the way, he and his eternal bride moved into the in-laws basement—the lord will provide.

After father-in-law funded his education, he landed a job as a teacher. Five boys now ran the basement halls, all under the age of ten; celestial family intact—while daddy kept his secret life on the school computer.

It all came crashing down.

A sting operation uncovered adult pornography on his school computer and he was fired. I can’t imagine the horror he felt as his thoughts of wife, children, church community, in-laws, all of it stared deep into his person—the inadequacy, the impending doom of a life of lies quickly became public knowledge.

There is a lot of pressure on the Mormon men because the women are typically more faithful and submissive. The doctrine states; if you don’t get in to heaven with your bride, another will take her home. If you are not worthy to lead her through the veil into the presence of the lord, she will be given (along with all your sealed children) to another more righteous that you.

His whole life and self worth is dictated by a doctrine of the groveling sinner, All of his insignificant secrets condemn the man for his natural urges, while his wife controls his sex life with her puritanized upbringing. Not only is his sexual adventure suppressed, it is taboo to even discuss such fantasies with his wife without being suspect of perverism.

Now he is not only monitored by the lord, but by his church community. He interviews with his bishop twice a year to make sure his little problem is in suppression, while the lingering disapproval of his weakness reigns.

His wife has forgiven him for his secret (which never should have needed to be secret) and he sells mattresses to supplement her income—because of some dirty pictures he should have been viewing with his wife to begin with.

Author: jim-

One minute info blogs breaking the faith trap.

51 thoughts on “Being a Mormon Man”

    1. The pressure to be perfect is incredible. If you can’t, hide it. “Psychotherapy can only begin when the organism can stop making excuses for being an organism”—Alan Watts
      . The world is under cover because the most trivial instincts are under control.

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      1. I regard the organization to be cultish (owing to its dubious acceptability into modern mainstream Christianity), if not a full blown cult.

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  1. I’m pretty sure that if anyone (Atheist or Theist) is watching porn on a school computer he will be fired since there are children around.

    Also if his wife isn’t into porn and he is then he should either stop watching it or get a divorce, again (Atheist or Theist).

    Just an observation.

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    1. While I agree that they don’t have to watch porn together, I am not sure why one person being into porn and the other not, means that the marriage should end.

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      1. You Stated — ” I am not sure why one person being into porn and the other not, means that the marriage should end.”

        My Response — Then I’ll point it out….., “into it to the extent of watching it around children”. That is more than entertainment, that’s an addiction. Time to back away from the addiction and focus on the marriage or walk away from it and spare the family any further embarrassment.

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        1. But do we know the person was watching it while children were present? I don’t see that being obvious from the story. I agree that watching pornography around children is wrong, addiction or not.

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          1. You Asked — “But do we know the person was watching it while children were present? “

            My Response — When an adult watches porn in a school it breaks trust with the parents and creates an opportunity for exposure to young minds that aren’t mature enough to process certain information.

            Not to mention why would he want to get sexually charged up in that type of environment? It could indicate a larger problem.

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            1. Do we know kids were in the school when he was viewing it? Kids go home at a certain time and teachers stay late. There’s no indication that he was watching porn while children were present. I honestly don’t care what people do in private…. And privacy isn’t just something you can have in your home.

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            2. There was another story from my area where the guy was watching porn on his school computer after hours and the janitor walked in. The teacher didn’t know his computer was still casting on the screen behind him. Oops. He got fired as well.

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            3. As was said before… You can be fired for having porn on your computer at almost any job. I’m sure people think it’s better than having it on a computer at home that family can access. All I’m saying is that watching porn in a location you think you’re alone, doesn’t equal addiction, or necessarily mean you should divorce your wife.

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            4. Agreed. Sex is a difficult topic in the church and it stays undiscussed and underground. I actually know the guy this happened to, and in principle you are correct, but Lander is too, in this case. I think it’s hard to justify it when he’s willing to risk his career and family. I would say he’s more of a narcissist than an addict. Maybe he’s just stupid, which might disqualify him from teaching? Nice to see you sir!

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            5. I think a lot of people… Maybe not so much today, but in recent past, think their personal accounts at work are private. That of course hasn’t been the case for at least two decades. Just like many think their nude pictures are safe on their home computer attached to the internet. I think our assessment of risk is often flawed, and for him he might have thought his greater risk was trying to look at pornography at home. Religious people sin all the time despite the prospect of eternal torment and this should be a much more frightening. I would also argue that the pervasiveness of pornography on the internet means kids are at much more risk of being exposed any time they access the internet. Some porn stored on a teacher’s personal account at school is much less likely to be found than any kid who gets hold of a wayward iPad

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            6. You Stated — “I honestly don’t care what people do in private…. And privacy isn’t just something you can have in your home.”

              My Response — Schools are public places with no expectation of protecting or securing erotic media. Children and parents are, for the most part, unpredictable when it comes to time and location. It would be irresponsible at best to view and engage erotic material in a school environment where children could be exposed regardless of the intention.

              If a person does not believe that privacy is something possible in their own home, how do they rationalize that privacy increases in a more public and chaotic environment such as a school?

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            7. Not all schools, my school was busy with after hour events.

              Let’s agree to disagree, I think schools are a terrible place for porn and it has no place there.

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            8. You Stated — “I would daresay you don’t feel porn as a place ANYWHERE.”

              My Response — I would say that porn has a place with it’s target audience and consumer. It is, after all, one of the top selling products of the world. Until people don’t want it I would say it most definitely has a place in the world.

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    1. Sure, we all seen theocracy at work. That’s why we’re a republic. Not sure if people get this or not, but their “god” has changed his mind several times and wiped people out because of their race. What if god gets bored with the whole “heaven thing” after a few trillion revolutions and just says fuck it? How much obeisance and submission can one person enjoy? What if you raise a concern in this perfect theocracy? Kim Jung anyone?

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  2. If indeed God’s law is the ultimate governance and religion is how we interact with said God, then it makes sense. However, we all know Jack is out there smokin’ – drinkin’ – and bonkin’ the Bishop’s old lady. 🙂

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  3. Damn, aren’t you glad to not be a Mormon anymore? The picture you uploaded at the end looks very familiar, like some aboriginal rock art I saw in Australia. Did you ever spend some time over there?

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      1. I had to look at it a few times, yeah I’ve been there. That art piece was on Nourlangie Rock in Kakadu. It is an awesome place to visit.
        I’m glad I left religion too, being a free thinker is liberating on its own.

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        1. Religion is a barrier to progress that is the individuals rite of passage. Not everyone is ready to call their own shots and accept responsibility for them.

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  4. I’m not really sure what it is you are telling us here, Jim. Is it that anything goes, as long as you share it with your wife? Or is it that mormon men don’t have to have morals?
    I know jehovah’s witness men can have sex with their daughters, because the daughters are seducing them (Yeah, right!), and if the wives–or children–complain they can be excommunicated, but the men cannot be!
    Looking just at the mormons, their doctrines are weird. But seeing this in other religions as well, one has to wonder about religion just being a cover for sex maniacs and dirty old men. If this is what their gods are all about, who is going to condemn them? According to believers, atheists are the ones without morals. I would like to debate them on that (though I would need a lot more information about other religions to make it a universal case.)

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    1. We’re lucky to live where religion is legal. Imagine the abuses if it had to be underground, like the polygamy sects and the doomsday cult rapists. We’re saving a lot of abuse by having religion tax exempt and freely operable.

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      1. Are we, Jim? I’ve got nothing against polygamy or polyandry if everyone agrees to it openly. I don’t know about doomsday cult rapists. I never heard of them, but any kind of rape is against my philosophy.
        What I disagree with is tax-free religion. I think i said it on one of your posts recently, that religions have a product that is free to manufacture, so every penny is profit. There is no reason for them to be tax-exempt. They of all people can afford to pay taxes! This ridiculous exemption is a holdover from the Middle Ages. It makes no practical sense to me today.

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            1. I have a friend who spent two years as a concubine in a Buddhist temple. She was excommunicated for reporting child abuses. They’re really all the same behind closed doors.

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        1. I worked for the US government. I have never figure out why peeps porned up their work computers, thinking they would not get caught. I mean, sign-on took forever and then warning after warning. That ain’t sex man, that is a stupid kind of foolish.

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    1. Nobody really believes anyway. If such a judge-mental and punitive creature (god) actually existed, why all the private behavior? Why will men do in the presence of their god what they would not do in front of even the most vile of humans?

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        1. That is true. How can one have the faith to achieve that if they can’t master masterbation? Lol. Haha. Wow! I said it! I see you already live in your own world Jeff, so the doctrine may not be so powerful to you!

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          1. Yep. I live in a time-less, space-less, non-corporeal world where all I wish comes true always. ‘Course, I can’t PROVE this, but, if you’ll just have faith, you’ll see all I say is true. Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’m off to masturbate in my time-less, space-less, non-corporeal world.

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